September 4, 2019
Jaquline the Confident
I watched my little girl exude confidence for the first time in public. At our gymnastics show on Mother’s Day, my Jaquline performed her practiced routine with a cloud of confidence I’ve never seen in her before. She LOVES gymnastics. She feels beautiful and strong doing her routines. She stood up on the mat and told everyone she wants to be an Olympic Gymnast.
Wow.
So much for “maybe they’ll have fun” – my thoughts when I was blessed to get them into classes.
For my family, discovering the sport of gymnastics has improved and amazed us. In brief, I answered an ad which I thought was part-time clerk help at a gymnastics facility; nope, was a coaching job and I am so totally in amazement that I get to work a dream job in a sport I always wanted to do but my family was unable to afford. From there, my girls (less Christina, who laughed and said “CAP is enough for me.” – oh, but she’s now a coach) joined classes. Kimberly came with strength and pushes to work her way up to the amazing skills she watches the team girls do. Becky and Jaquline had no interest in fitness before gymnastics but now are working out with determination. Jillian and Lucas have fun.
Jaquline’s new semester includes her gymnastics classes, reading everything she loves (She graduated up from the Magic Treehouse books to A Little Princess, The Secret Garden, and The Princess and the Swans the last couple of months!), practicing gymnastics outside (no jumps or flips – that’s mom’s rule, but I watch her do her floor routine from the show over and over and over…), learning nutrition (what builds muscle? I need x grams of protein before workout), and playing word games with her super increasing vocabulary! Louis says he’ll glance at the table after breakfast and everyone is sitting around doing work except Jaquline. He’ll go looking and she’s curled up in her bed with some fat book in front of her so he leaves her until she comes out. She’s sometimes not wanting to do regular schoolwork (it seems every child goes through at least one “I don’t want to do school” phase), but we aren’t worried because right now is a nutrition, fitness, grammar, literature, and vocabulary focus semester. A few more books in that level and she’ll either be scanning the library for more like them or moving up a notch! (And she thinks she’s “not doing schoolwork” by reading unabridged classics!)
Sometimes we all need a “break” from the ordinary (yes, mom and dad still ask, “did you finish your math, history, and science?”) and our focus shifts to what we find fun. Jaquline is doing math she doesn’t realize while planning her savings goals. She’s stepping into real history and culture with “Little Women” and “A Little Princess” (1860 – 1880 United States and 1800s English Empire, respectively). She’s learning science by watching Becky and Kimberly’s experiments, reading her nutrition books. She’s doing practical learning by watching how Dad prepares food and analyzing the nutrition in her meals (plus, math and science here too).
Although her semester finds her trying to be stubborn and “skip regular lessons” this time around, we know she’s still learning. God is working on her heart now too – “Heidi” is a story of forgiveness, redemption, and return to reliance on God. (Just one example… I LOVE the unabridged versions of classics.)
Don’t be discouraged, parents! Even if they are “refusing” to learn, they are learning anyway! Find something they love that is natural learning and encourage that! They’ve got plenty more years to get “lessons” on track… build relationship and understanding.
This doesn’t mean we as parents aren’t constantly reminding her to “finish her math” or whatever lessons, it’s just that we don’t fight over it! Life has taught us that she will come back to “formal lessons” soon. We had a teen freak and slam forward in her algebra once her sister below her was “catching up” – Jaquline did the same last year when Jillian “graduated” into the same math book Jaquline was using. Our philosophy is never to alter one person’s progress because of another’s lack; instead we encourage self-growth. Thankfully, human nature among our children includes a fierce competitive spirit! They will learn. They will grow. Sometimes, though, a sidetrack on a different path is needed. (Don’t you ever feel that way as an adult? – I do!)
Type at you later,
~Nancy Tart
